If you can’t talk about sex, how can you think about it? The historical censorship of discussion about sex has left us with another disability: the act of talking about sex, of putting words to what we do in bed, has become difficult and embarrassing. This cuts us off from sharing about our sexual experience with our friends, sometimes even with our lovers. […] What you can’t talk about, you can hardly think about. Most of us think in words; without a language with which to speak about sex, we not only cannot communicate with others, we cannot communicate with ourselves.